Successful difficult conversations

Category: Improve Your Difficult Conversations

Every headteacher knows that parent. The one who keeps coming back. Again. And again. You do your best to help, but it never feels resolved. You might even feel your stomach sink when you see them approaching. In this week’s short video, I share a simple framework that keeps you in control.
Some parent conversations are hard work. Some are draining. And some… are wins. Here’s a simple leadership habit: Make space to share “What worked.”
Ever felt like you’re walking on eggshells with a parent? Maybe they storm in. Raise their voice. Question your judgement. Or drop a comment that sticks in your head for days. Other times, they’re less direct, but you still leave the conversation second-guessing every word.
Are parents harder to work with now? It’s not your imagination. The generation of parents you're dealing with today experienced school very differently — and it shows in the way they respond today. In this short video, I unpack why conversations with parents can feel more emotionally charged, and what school leaders can do to stay calm, confident, and clear.
Why is talking about behaviour so hard? Behaviour conversations are tougher than performance ones. It’s easier to help someone improve their marking than to change their attitude​. If behaviour is the issue, here’s what can help
What’s the one difficult conversation people fear the most? The one no one wants to have? Telling someone they smell.
There are 5 common difficult conversations I see time and again in school. I asked 1,489 school leaders which of these difficult conversations they are having with their staff - only 3% had none of them.
65% of difficult conversations don’t get fixed. The problem comes back. Again and again. Does that sound familiar? It doesn’t have to be this way. I promised. Yes, promise! I’ve seen it.