On the eighth day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, eight ‘Who told you that?’s

Here’s three things you can do when someone wants to know ‘Who told you that?’ https://youtu.be/QZzm_ufiei0  

You’re not going to witness everything that happens in your school. This means that your difficult conversations can be about things you have been told but not seen. This is fine, it’s part of your leadership responsibility and an expectation that staff can come and report things they are not happy about. What can happen when you have this conversation is the other person asks: ‘’Who told you?’ There are several ways to respond to this:

1 – If the person who told you is happy for you to say it was them, and you feel it’s appropriate, then you can.

2 – If you were told in confidence then you can say: ‘I was told in confidence and so I can’t disclose this’.

3 – If they persist in wanting to know, you can say: ‘The issue is not who told me, the issue is…(and then whatever your ‘I, issue, outcome’ sentence is).

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The 12 days so far:

On the first day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, the issue of the moody secretary

On the second day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, two TAs’ timing

On the third day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, three teachers crying

On the fourth day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, four of the team downloading

On the fifth day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, five smelly staff

On the sixth day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, six parents complaining

On the seventh day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, seven jobs outstanding

On the eighth day of Christmas my SLT raised with me, eight ‘Who told you that?’s